In the preface to Heal Your Family: Get Love and Life to Flow from Your Ancestors to You and Your Children, psychotherapist Magui Block cuts to the chase by asserting, “My approach contradicts conventional thinking and proclaims that liberating family burdens can be quick, easy and fun.” Such effortless healing may sound impossible, but the author’s nurturing attitude and impeccable prose hook readers, allowing them to open up to her ideas.
The book centers on the concept of the “invisible family legacy,” which Block describes as inherited “emotions, beliefs, stories, loyalties and traumas.” This accounts for problems ranging from financial woes to insomnia and illness. It’s not our job to fix the whole family, Block writes, but to simply resolve our own part and stop carrying unconscious baggage that doesn’t belong to us. Heal Your Family is particularly eye-opening when exploring the idea that the “family” consists not only of relatives and ancestors, but others as well.
Using real-life cases and personal experiences, Block gently steers readers through the Magui Block Method. Each chapter explores a different aspect of healing—transforming blind love to wise love, for example, or resolving cycles of violence. At the end of each one, the author offers an easy-to-follow meditative exercise with a specific sitting posture, affirmations and phrases to repeat aloud. The aim is to slowly retrain your perceptions and expectations of family members, including yourself.
The book requires an open mind and a willingness to honor all family members, even those responsible for trickle-down traumas. Each person has his or her place, Block writes, and assuming another’s, such as when a child tries to fill the role of his deceased father, disrupts the entire system.
Even if you skip the exercises, Heal Your Family is well worth reading for its thought-provoking perspective on finding inner peace by accepting the past. “Only then,” Block says, “can it all be left behind.”
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